Enoughness

To feel complete is a discipline in dailyness. An exercise in fortifying as the force fields will often beg you to question your capabilities.

The journey of invincibility (an opposite of vulnerability) is the practice of continuously keying in to your enoughness. Discovering the openings, on repeat, within. Ensuring that you do not mistake invincibility for bravado or the beloved game of comparative suffering.

A Few Enoughness Metrics

• Your ability to remain present, in the joy and in the difficult, is a correlation to your enoughness.

• The skill of tending to your own grid so you flow and radiate discernment, peacefulness, strength, love, and the fullness of your mastery is a metric of your enoughness.

• How you feed your own heart is your daily nourishment and a measure of enoughness.

• Your ability to keep your own company with delight and interest is another measure of your enoughness.

• You being content in nature and the natural world is an indicator of your enoughness.

• Your kindness to others is a direct reflection of your own internal state of enoughness.

• Grasping and living into intelligent, aware self-preservation as different from selfishness is a bedrock of your enoughness.

Enoughness Distractions

The world’s buckling structures, ideologies, and dominant narratives can easily have you looking externally for value and validation. These constructs delight in playing into unconscious patterning and deep grooves that say "another, rather than yourself determines your worth, fills your cup."

Mind you, nothing on this list is a net negative. They are merely elements of the jungle gym of life and living. The thing to bear in mind is they are inanimate. They are not the essence of derived meaning, nor the source of give back at a heart level. The fullness of your own humanity interacting within these constructs are the animations.

Be cautious about casting onto them an expectation of emotional return. Live into the understanding that the cognitive idea or the material object does not equate to the depth of your heart, nor the realising of meaning. Work with your own fulfillment and enoughness so you are better able to bring that fullness out to the constructs.

Simply notice.

Where might you be ceding control over your own beingness without taking notice? Might you unknowingly be outsourcing your value, worth, and enoughness. To people. To constructs and systems. To technology platforms. To yet unpacked, habituated operating.

Why think about this in this way?

Because when you aren’t drawing your sense of self, strength, happiness, and love from within first, from that baseline and daily work of an enoughness practice, absolutely none of the items on the list above can sustainably fill the well.

This (beautiful) world may have you otherwise wandering about in a state of perpetual non-fulfillment with all the temptations, inherent biases, and structural coding. Checking these checkboxes can easily draw you into the loop of lack. And we know the unending loop of lack quietly toxifies the already enough inner realm, if you allow it.

What is always a rich liminal starting place, ripe with possibility and potential, can instead become a negative space that feeds itself on deficit. A prism when looked through that refracts incompleteness, your own or another’s. A narrative that might begin to scold on worthiness fluctuations. A grade school ruler that measures on metrics you aren’t even conscious about, nor that you personally or collectively choose. The cumulative insufficiency then projects onto your external realm, becoming an operating system of outsourcing your inherent wealth, perhaps digging a bottomless well.

Growth is different.

Growth and growing is orienting to natural and soulful fortification, our personal adaptation model and reliable co-designing structure. Leaning into growth from a place of knowing and security about the current ground underneath your feet, and faith in the freefall of learning and becoming.

A willingness to do your own metamorphosis regardless of anyone else. Attending to a quiet whisper that reminds you of your own birthright and enoughness, even amidst the messiness becoming will inevitably deliver.

The caterpillar does in fact resist becoming the butterfly. This has to make sense because we understand that contrast (aka resistance) is inherent in systems design, natural law, and evolutionary change.

The alchemical dance is latent in the DNA.

There are distinct caterpillar cells.

And, distinct butterfly cells.

The butterfly cells exist inside the caterpillar.

Eventually within the caterpillar, enough butterfly cells awaken to overcome the caterpillar cells — and the transformation takes place.

The caterpillar cells strengthen the metamorphosis of the butterfly.

Each — the caterpillar and the butterfly — is a complete, organic, sovereign being, interwoven amongst them a capability and capacity.

The becoming process is an adaptation of the caterpillar’s enoughness.

The butterfly, a result of their potentiality.

The imaginal cells for becoming, adapting, growing are already within.

They simply wait, resisting naturally along the way, until finally they tip because it is time.

Commit to the dance.

Deficiency structures and lack mentality are counterforces to adaptation energy.

• For individuals.

• For systems.

• For collectives.

The enoughness rules apply for every system, everywhere. You, it, and they come in with the enoughness intelligence.

Notice the invitations of higher potential.

Open to them.

Engage receptively with the resistance.