Culture and the architectures that have governed life over the last few thousand years overstate stability as a principle to strive for, keeping most people in states of fear when it comes to movement, change, flow, growth, and natural evolution. The principle to live by instead is the ability to consciously adapt to the changes that come for you. They are always opportunities whether they look like that or not.

Life, living, and leading is about the courage to step in and up to what presents, be nimble, be ready to pivot, and learn (usually by trial and error) how to get good at it. You were taught unfairly if you live by any notion that the world you construct and choices you make are fixed. You have been taught mistruths if you came to believe that you are exempt from trials and tribulations, endings, deaths, disruptions, and trauma. The sooner you learn to work with them as a dance partner, finding out what they have to teach and where they are leading you, the better you’ll integrate their lessons of flow, resilience, and adaptability.

Fear is your muse. Resist the temptation to allow her to put you in a headlock. Instead, interact with her and see what’s back there. She always brings a pearl and puts you back on the river of life. Stability is this ability to move with intention and effectiveness in the liminal spaces between life’s moments, chapters, and stages.