Take a Breath

Your wounds, unconscious memories, and limiting beliefs are calling out on repeat for transmutation. Yet, your reptilian, dopamine-addicted mind desperately wants you to believe deeply in the offense set off by the trigger – set off by the unconscious, ego mind.

Triggers are subtle or not-so-subtle reminders to pause. Take a breath. Hold your words. Take ownership of the moment. See what the moment has on hand to teach you.

When you feel the rumbling in your body, because triggers are always body sensations first and usually the same sensation on repeat – become intimate with it. Meet it. Get to know it. Breathe into the reaction. Be in relationship to it objectively rather than co-dependently. Allow it to be, rather than fight against it. Do this so it settles the f@$% down.

Then assign a feeling word to the moment. Take a beat to allow it to pass. And only then, form words.

Those words could look like “Tell me more about X,” “Give me a second to figure out what I’m reacting to," or “Tell me if I’m hearing you correctly." This allows you to objectively separate yourself from your trigger that is undoubtedly rooted in your ancient history, not the moment being had.

Your dopamine-addicted mind loves you wound up. That is its supply. Training yourself not to play from ego or from your triggers will sharpen your energetic game. It will also help you sleep better at night.