Decide to Become Good at Love

The way you demonstrate, express, and bring love and the way I demonstrate, express, and bring love are and should be different. We are each our own beautiful masterpiece fully wired with our own traumas, experiences, ancestries, cultures, and experiences. Becoming good at love doesn’t in any way mean trying to follow some playbook or way of another. It isn’t about fitting into love types or languages. Love and its expression is our own to plumb the depths for and experiment with.

We practice it as a part of our own becoming, growth, and expansion. We continue to practice and learn about it as a fundamental component of life, living, and leading.

As a culture, we don’t talk about the expression and experience of needing and feeling love (not the over-emphasized romantic love) enough as a part of learning, growth, and development which has meant we built vacancies, shame, and fear around needing love, expressing love, and embodying love as a social norm.

Strength and love are integrated counterparts, not opposites. They do not exist separately from one another. You are not strong by not showing feelings and emotion. This norm is the basis of our distorted idea of masculinity. You are not weak by expressing emotion — an equally distorted cultural phenomenon around femininity.

We are all the embodiment of love and strength.

Emotion is a language we all must learn and be able to freely, safely, and truthfully speak without fear of judgment, shame, and repercussions. All emotion isn’t easy, pretty, rosey, or soft. It can always be clear, kind, and delivered with positive intentions.

The world that tells you to suppress emotion because it looks weak or unsafe is a world built on fear and against love, its derivatives, and natural law.

Love is strength. Love is grief. Love is sweet.

Love is wild. Love is architectures and constructs.

Love is abundant.

Love is truth delivered with compassion. Love is beauty. Love is groundedness.

Love is honesty. Love is connectivity. Love is interdependence.

Love is boundaries. Love is freedom. You are love embodied needing expression.

How love functions in your life is a practice.